As we get older we begin to be surrounded by tons of babies. We start seeing everyone around us having them, but still some of us don’t have any. It’s after you are a certain age single & looking that you realize you might end up with someone who already has a child. If you don’t have a child of your own this might be the scariest move to make. First of all you don’t know what it is to be a parent, second of all you are taking a step to change your life with your partner & are taking them in with 2 others (the baby & the other parent). Depending on how serious you get with this person, so does your involvement with this child that isn’t quite yours. This is HUGE, starting a new relationship has a lot of tribulation of its own once you reach a certain age, your expectations change & you are more then likely seeking for something long-term & now you are also filling an application to be a step parent.

I have tons of respect for single parents out there, & I can only imagine the struggle of raising a child & still trying to have a life outside of  that reality. To bring in someone not only to your life, but the life of your child. What happens when something as complex & yet simple as starting a relationship gets overcomplicated by this well-known “Baby Momma Drama” this includes but not limited to..

• Child Support being past due
• One parent still being emotionally involved & making sure no one gets in between the family
• The child not accepting this “new person”
• Not knowing if that relationship is really over between the parents
• Questioning if one day you’ll be that single parent
• what went wrong in that other relationship, will it happen to you

I am far from an expert in this topic, in fact I probably know nothing about it really, since I for one have no children & have never been in a relationship with someone with a child. BUT I do know tons of single moms, & even a few single dad’s. So I was curious to the struggles faced with being a single parent & in dating a single parent. Is all this baby momma drama a myth or is it really THAT SERIOUS?

It was clear to me it’s a HUGE topic with the overwhelming responses I got, below are just a few of the things I read… The Question asked was,

Would you Date someone with a child? If so, Why or why not”

Dj Jonathan Lopez- “Raising someone elses kids, is NOT for everyone. It comes naturally to some, It’s not something that grows on someone. Maybe it was my situation because the kid was a brat. She didn’t believe in discipline & the kid did whatever the heck he wanted & he was only 5! Imagine when was 15. Maybe it can be easier for older divorced couples whose kids are already grown up & not living with them.”

Katy Duverge- “Yes, I will stick around but if the baby mom is giving drama, I’m out”

Soleil Rodriguez- “its a little awkward lol but now I have a boyfriend with a daughter & her & my daughter are the same age so it makes it easier for him to understand what I go through , no problem with his baby-momma so it’s not as bad as u think and another thing is some people are immature n need to learn how to move on , its hard but hey I did it!”

Shirley Castillo- “Nope, definitely can NOT. Too selfish to share. I like attention & would want 99.9 of his”

Jason Mercado- “I went out with someone who has a child and in my case it’s very hard not to get attached to the child if you spend enough time with them which helps build the relationship. Unfortunately when these relationships end, it could affect the child and no one wants to mess up a kid like that. Not everyone can do it but if you care for the person enough and if that person lets you see their child, people should embrace it because that person is taking a big risk. Its tough but when it works, its wonderful”

Kimberly Rodriguez- “It all depends on the relationship and age of the child. If the child is a little older & is capable of understanding & handling a situation where their parents split & seeing other people then I don’t see anything wrong with it. If there is drama involved, no way! I don’t need that type of instability in my life as a young educated woman working on my career. I need someone on the same page as me, therefore I would like someone who has no kids, but never say never, there are always exceptions.”

Melissa Quezada- “Right now if I was to enter a new relationship I wouldn’t have a kid and I would expect the same from the new guy. I want to be able to share that first-born experience with someone who too will be going through it for the first time. But who knows how I might feel later on in life.”

Anonymous Talker- “From experience I prefer talking to someone who doesn’t have any kids. Even tho I have a chid of course I would want them to expect me and my child. But I can’t deal with the baby mama drama so I will not date a guy who has a child. I know its wrong and a double standard but I can’t”

Anonymous Talker 2- “My story….Before I would say “Hell No!!” I don’t want the drama, “quien va cojer ese pakete??”. Then I met a guy who was nice and who I started dating. Turns out Mr. Nice has 2 kids!! My first response was “drop him like it’s hot” but then I thought hmmm what if the roles were reversed. What if I was a single mom with 2 kids trying to find a man. So I gave it a chance! It is different dating a man who has kids especially if he is a good dad and not a dead beat dad, because his kids will always be priority. Knowing that his ex will always be in his life is something that you will have to understand. So it all depends on the person you are and how comfortable you are with these types of situation. Not every Man that has kids has “Baby Momma Drama” its on an individual basis.”

anonymous talker 3- “WHAT??!!! I’m dating this guy with one son but his son is not the issue.. It’s the freaking constant text messaging OBSESSED EX!!! what am I supposed to do?! Or demand!? O can’t control her text messaging him …. Could it be immature of my part to ask him to change his number?! But then again?! How is she going to contact him when a real emergency comes up about their son?! Mann!!! I’m all confused but all I know is that maybe I’ll have to just feel good at the fact that he’s with me and not her…. But that’s not enough for me”

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SoOoOo with all this said, what do you think, Would you date someone with a child? or is the “drama” just too much to handle. Sometimes it sure does feel like it is difficult to find one without a kid, is that a bad thing? I guess you never know until you fall in love & find yourself in the situation or maybe you make sure never to be in it.

Later Days,

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